Who Do You Attract?

Do you feel like you are a magnet for momma's boys or a certain type of man like the bad boy? Jung talks about archetypes and that people look unconsciously for an archetypal figure.

There are both feminine and masculine types such as daddy's little girl, a mother earth figure, high maintenance woman or the woman needing guidance. Other archetypes include the intellectual man not connected to practical , the eternal boy (Peter Pan) and Mr.Fix It.

Many people like a combo platter which could include different features from various archetypes. Jung talks about how we may compensate for our own one-sidedness by seeking someone with opposite or complimentary characteristics.

Someone who may be very generous could be attracted to a person who is able to set boundaries and defend their own self-interests. A person who sides more with their analytical skills may be drawn to an artistic person or someone who's in touch with their creative non-verbal side.

Do you like who you attract? Some women find that they are seen as mother figures to men and they don't like this type of relationship structure. Yet, it repeats itself over and over.

There is some type of "energy" that men pick up from her about her capacity to nurture, take care of other people and put others needs ahead of her own. Yet women may not like to be in this relationship structure with a romantic partner. Some may just be comfortable with this amongst their friends, colleagues and children.

Often the people we attract are not the ideal relationship we hope for since we want a romantic relationship to be a relief from our ordinary patterns rather than another instance of these repeated archetypes.

Many people complain that they seem to constantly attracting the same type of person despite the fact that this type isn't their dream person. Look at the kind of message you are giving out to see who you tend to draw towards you. What is it about you that sends out that signal to them?

Are those your primary characteristics and are there qualities you may want to add or supplement so you can draw another type of person that may be more ideal for you?